To help everyone feel comfortable with who they are sexually.
Why join FetLife?
A Community for Everyone
No matter where you are in your sexual journey, FetLife has something for you.
Explore and Learn
With 165,840 groups, and 5,258,358 writings, FetLife is the best place to explore your kinks and sexuality.
Find Local Events
With 18,686 upcoming events you can find local and virtual workshops, munches, and play parties near you.
Not a Meat Market
FetLife is not a dating site, which makes it the best place to meet new friends, play partners, and life partners.
We celebrate our diversity and our uniqueness. There is no one right way, there is only the right way for you.
We don't sell or share your data and on deletion of your account we permanently delete everything.
By Kinksters, For Kinksters
We are not a faceless corporation. We are kinksters just like you who needed a place to call home.
It's 99.9% Free
We don't get in the way of you interacting with people and having fun. People can support us for nice to have features.
Be Your Authentic Self
Unlike other places on the internet, on FetLife you can be your complete authentic self.
“Candidly, I LOVE this place. I've been telling my friends someone finally got it right.”— Jay Wiseman, author of SM 101
Don't Take our Word for it
Thousands of members have found friendships, a community, love, and much more on FetLife. Here are just a few of their stories:
“Because of Fetlife, I have met so many wonderful people, been to dozens upon dozens of amazing events, learned an incredible amount, and overall developed and grew as a person. I have found and explored kinks and interests I may have never considered. I have had the opportunity to play with some fantastic partners I never would have otherwise met.”
“It is truly the best engineered website of its type and is in a class of its own. I have met several like-minded "kinksters" as you call us, and have developed a number of close friendships. I hope to be a member for many years.”
“I've been on FetLife for almost 15 years, from the very beginning. I've met, played with, and had sex with some of the most amazingly beautiful people inside and out. Because of Fetlife, I've been to glamorous events and met interesting people from all over the world. I've built relationships and even got legally married to my first wife directly because of FetLife. Literally!”
“If it weren't for this site I never would have met the woman I'm going to marry. We started chatting on FetLife, started dating five years ago, and we are officially getting married this weekend.”
“You had the vision and the foresight to create one of the only positive adult fetish-based websites. One of the only social media stages where people of all colors, creeds, nationalities, sexual preferences, and genders can actively be themselves and interact with others in almost any way they choose.”
“I've met a lot of amazing people and get to engage with a whole host of folk who have made my time here so far an absolute riot. So thanks FetLife ❤. You've allowed me to grow and realize life's far too short to get hung up on the past or the parts of myself that I wasn't happy with."
“This site has its flaws, but its core membership is authentic, kind, and cuttingly intelligent. I don't know why the kink scene attracts people of this caliber, but it does. You have quite literally turned me into a different person - and a happier one at that.”
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“This site has gifted me friendships, experiences, growth, and connectivity through the many years I've belonged.”
“I never thought it would be possible to be where I am today - getting an incredible amount of love on here and meeting so many wonderful kinksters.”
“Joining FetLife was a major factor in my life taking a turn for the better. I have gained so much from what I have learned here and the wonderful support I've been given.”
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What can I find on FetLife?
Explore, Discover, Learn
With over 890,689 fetishes and kinks, there's something for everyone. Here's some of the most popular ones: