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FetLife is the Most Popular Social Network for the BDSM, Fetish & Kinky Community.

A beautifully diverse community of members from all over the world.
FetLife's Mission

Help people feel comfortable with who they are sexually.

Why join FetLife?

A Community for Everyone

No matter where you are in your sexual journey, FetLife has something for you.

Explore and Learn

With 175,184 groups, and 5,605,553 writings, FetLife is the best place to explore your kinks and sexuality.

Find Local Events

With 22,494 upcoming events you can find local and virtual workshops, munches, and play parties near you.

Not a Meat Market

FetLife is not a dating site, which makes it the best place to meet new friends, play partners, and life partners.

Beautifully Diverse

We celebrate our diversity and our uniqueness. There is no one right way, there is only the right way for you.

Privacy First

We don't sell or share your data and on deletion of your account we permanently delete everything.

By Kinksters, For Kinksters

We are not a faceless corporation. We are kinksters just like you who needed a place to call home.

It's 99.9% Free

We don't get in the way of you interacting with people and having fun. People can support us for nice to have features.

Be Your Authentic Self

Unlike other places on the internet, on FetLife you can be your complete authentic self.

“Candidly, I LOVE this place. I've been telling my friends someone finally got it right.”

— Jay Wiseman, author of SM 101

Don't Take our Word for it

Thousands of members have found friendships, a community, love, and much more on FetLife. Here are just a few of their stories:

“Because of Fetlife, I have met so many wonderful people, been to dozens upon dozens of amazing events, learned an incredible amount, and overall developed and grew as a person. I have found and explored kinks and interests I may have never considered. I have had the opportunity to play with some fantastic partners I never would have otherwise met.”

– ScarletDisaster 36F Primal

“It is truly the best engineered website of its type and is in a class of its own. I have met several like-minded "kinksters" as you call us, and have developed a number of close friendships. I hope to be a member for many years.”

– DavinaThompson 69CD/TV Sissy

“I've been on FetLife for almost 15 years, from the very beginning. I've met, played with, and had sex with some of the most amazingly beautiful people inside and out. Because of Fetlife, I've been to glamorous events and met interesting people from all over the world. I've built relationships and even got legally married to my first wife directly because of FetLife. Literally!”

– Warloq_com 49GQ Dom

“If it weren't for this site I never would have met the woman I'm going to marry. We started chatting on FetLife, started dating five years ago, and we are officially getting married this weekend.”

– bubby74 49M Swinger

“You had the vision and the foresight to create one of the only positive adult fetish-based websites. One of the only social media stages where people of all colors, creeds, nationalities, sexual preferences, and genders can actively be themselves and interact with others in almost any way they choose.”


“This site has its flaws, but its core membership is authentic, kind, and cuttingly intelligent. I don't know why the kink scene attracts people of this caliber, but it does. You have quite literally turned me into a different person - and a happier one at that.”

– SpanishRed 47F

“I never expected people to like the pictures I take, to me it was an old hobby dusted and forgotten. But you inspired me and motivated me in a way I had never foreseen. So I want to thank you for that. Thank you for lighting that fire once again inside of me.

– AnneSoarele 24F Sensualist

“This site has gifted me friendships, experiences, growth, and connectivity through the many years I've belonged.”

– __raven__ F Vixen

“I never thought it would be possible to be where I am today - getting an incredible amount of love on here and meeting so many wonderful kinksters.”

– KittenNextDoor 26F babygirl

“Joining FetLife was a major factor in my life taking a turn for the better. I have gained so much from what I have learned here and the wonderful support I've been given.”

– __Willow__ 58F

“The validation from comments on my photos has done wonderful things for my body confidence - a real gift from FetLife”

– ElleGoodGirl 38F sub

“My interests have always been a bit different than most folks, and I felt like I was supposed to be ashamed of that. Now I know there are many others just like me, who won't judge.

– Vixie_ 32F sub

It is impossible to describe how freeing and wondrous this site has been for me. We only get one life to live, and you deciding to make a place where people don't feel ashamed of their kink was a fantastic way to use yours.”

– KinkyJester7 20M Dom

I especially like how you (FetLife) come out and get the community involved in new features. It's refreshing in an environment of opaque and stale faceless social media mega corps.”

– Arx 35M Prince

“This site is fantastic, professional, and user-friendly. It gives people like me a chance to safely explore a brand new world. It shows how much effort you put in.”

– KinkyMissEm 52F Switch

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What can I find on FetLife?

Explore, Discover, Learn

With over 896,569 fetishes and kinks, there's something for everyone. Here's some of the most popular ones:

Role Play
Mistress / slave
Age Play
Chastity Devices
Erotic Photography
Hair Pulling
Dirty Talk
Candle Wax
Power Exchange
Orgasm Denial
Ball Gags
Daddy / girl

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