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FetLife Restraining Orders

FetLife Restraining Orders (FLRO) are FetLife’s take on restraining orders. When an FLRO is put in place, we ask that all members that are part of the FLRO to no longer speak directly or indirectly to or about one another from the time the FLRO is issued.

FLROs are only handed out in extraordinary circumstances and only when nothing else has worked.

FLROs are between people and not accounts. FLROs remain in place unless one of the people involved in the FLRO is permanently banned from the site.

We do not issue FLROs in cases where we believe the person who is requesting the FLRO is doing so to try to silence a victim.

How do I request an FLRO?

To request an FLRO, a member will need to:

  • Have blocked the person for several uninterrupted weeks
  • Provide evidence of specific and direct malicious behaviour that is continuing despite the block
    • Examples include but are not limited to: harassment in groups, posting about content they are blocked from seeing, ongoing spotting, etc.
  • Contact [email protected]

What is an FLRO Violation?

When an FLRO is issued, we request that all parties involved remove any posts on FetLife about one another. If the Caretakers come across any, we will remove them without notification or a warning if they are from the past. Any posts made after the FLRO is issued will be removed with notification and may be subject to time-out.

What is in violation of this guideline?

Examples include, but are not limited to:

  • Members directly or indirectly speaking to or about someone they have an FLRO with
  • Members sending unsolicited private messages regarding someone they have an FLRO with
  • Members requesting to be contacted by a private message regarding someone they have an FLRO with
  • Members using a secondary account to spy on or investigate someone with who they have an FLRO with

What is not in violation of this guideline?

Examples include:

  • Member stating that they cannot speak about their FLRO or anyone involved

How do I report a potential FLRO Violation?

You can report potential FLRO violations as follows:

  1. Visit the page with the potentially offensive material
  2. Select "...", “More,” or “Options,” then select “Report”
  3. Select "Content Not Permitted"
  4. Select "Next"
  5. Add any additional information that you think is important
  6. Select "Report"

For more information, you can refer to Submitting a Report.

Who can report a potential violation of this guideline?

Anyone aware of an existing FLRO and believes there may be a potential violation of the order.

What happens if someone violates this guideline?

If we believe the content is in violation of the guideline, the content is removed, and the person is timed-out for a week.

If the person continues to violate their FLRO, each subsequent timeout they receive increases in length, and the person risks losing their account.