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Guidelines & Legalese

FetLife's guidelines, privacy policy, legal info, etc.

Person in Picture / Video

Pictures and Videos should only be posted if all people in the image consent to it being posted to your FetLife profile. At any time, anyone in the picture or video can withdraw their consent to it being posted, and the picture or video has to be removed.

What is in violation of this guideline?

A picture or video is in violation of this guideline if anyone in the image:

  • does not consent to it being posted; or
  • no longer consents to it being posted (removed consent)

Examples include, but are not limited to:

  • A picture of your ex-partner, if they no longer consent to it being posted
  • Any kind of revenge porn (see specific Revenge Porn guideline)
  • Hidden camera video, if an individual in the video did not consent to it
  • Appearing in the background of a video

What is not in violation of this guideline?

This guideline specifically concerns people. The following examples are not in violation of this guideline:

  • A picture of a room in your house
  • A video of your dog
  • A picture of your flogger or whip

How do I report a violation of this guideline?

You can report a picture or video in violation of this guideline as follows:

On Desktop and Mobile:

  1. Visit the picture or video
  2. Select "report"
  3. Select “I’m in the [picture/video] and I don’t consent to it being posted.”
  4. Select "Next"
  5. Fill out the form
  6. Select "Report It"

By Email: (only for non-members)

  1. Send an email to [email protected]
  2. Fill out the following form:

I certify that the following list of pictures/videos are of me and the person who posted them does not have permission (model release) to do so. I would like FetLife to please take them down.

[links to the offending pictures and videos go here, one per line]

The following is my info:

FetLife Nickname: [FetLife Nickname]

Link to my Profile: [Link to my Profile]

Email Address: [Email Address]

For more general information on reporting, please visit: Submitting a Report.

Who can report a violation of this guideline?

Anyone who appears in the picture or video. We do not act on third-party reports under this guideline.

What happens if someone violates this guideline?

When a report is made, a FetLife team member reviews the report. If we can’t verify the reporter is in the picture or video using what we find on their profile, we may request a confirmation photo.

When there is sufficient information that the content may be in violation of the guideline, the picture or video is removed. We then inform the member that we removed the content because someone who appears in the picture or video no longer consents to it being posted.

A member receives a warning for posting content they did not have permission to post unless they can provide proof that they did have prior permission. Repeat violations will result in escalating suspensions from FetLife.