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Revenge Porn

We have a zero tolerance policy for revenge porn on FetLife.

What is revenge porn?

Revenge porn is defined as any picture or video that is:

  • Sexually explicit in nature;
  • Knowingly posted without the pictured person's consent; and is
  • Either:
    • Posted to humiliate, intimidate, or blackmail the pictured person; or
    • Posted with personally identifiable information of the pictured person

What is in violation of this guideline?

Examples include, but are not limited to, any sexually explicit picture or video posted without consent:

  • With the intent to intimidate the person in the picture or video
  • That includes the physical address of person in the picture or video
  • In order to shame the person for their sexuality or body
  • In order to shame the person in the picture or video for not paying on time

What is not in violation of this guideline?

Examples include:

  • Picture posted with prior consent
  • Non-sexually explicit picture of someone watching a scene at a play party
  • Person who mistakes consensual humiliation or exposure play for a non-consensual act

NOTE: If you are in a picture or video that you do not consent to be on FetLife, you can have it removed through our Person in Picture / Video process.

Who can report a potential violation of this guideline?

Anyone who appears in the picture or video. We need to hear directly from the person to confirm that they did not consent to the picture or video being posted.

How do I report a potential violation of this guideline?

You can report a picture or video in violation of this guideline as follows:

On Desktop and Mobile:

  1. Visit the picture or video
  2. Select "report"
  3. Select “Content is not permitted.”
  4. Select "Next"
  5. Fill out the box, explaining why this is revenge porn
  6. Select "Report It"

By Email: (only for non-members)

  1. Send an email to report@fetlife.com
  2. In the email, link to the pictures and/or videos, and explain why this is revenge porn.

For more general information on reporting, please visit: Submitting a Report.

What happens if someone violates this guideline?

When we determine that someone has posted revenge porn to FetLife, we delete the content in question and execute a 90 day preservation request on the profile that posted the revenge porn. This way all evidence is maintained for 90 days in case the victim of the revenge porn decides to press charges.

After removing the content and preserving the account, we review the person’s profile. If we determine that the person joined FetLife with the sole purpose of distributing revenge porn, we lock the member out and put their profile in the delete queue.

If the person who posted it is an active member of the FetLife community, we give them a minimum of a one week timeout and only allow them back onto FetLife after they agree to never again post revenge porn.

If the member posts revenge porn again, they will be locked out of their profile and their profile will be added to the delete queue for permanent deletion.