What you mean you want to delete your account? That blows llama ass… and I know… I've blown… things… like balloons and such. But I digress.
The easiest way to delete your profile is to go to the https://fetlife.com/deactivate?type=delete link. Click on your nickname in the upper right hand part of your browser window. Then Click on “Edit Profile”. On the right hand side, you’ll see a link to “Delete profile”. We ask you a few questions, and your profile goes "inactive" and into the queue to be deleted in seven days. Change your mind? No worries! Just log back into FetLife anytime in the next 7 days, and your profile becomes active and moves out of the delete queue!
Just remember, we will always be here for you. Don't hesitate to re-join in the future.
You now have the ability to change your own nickname every 28 days! For your convenience, click here. Otherwise click on your nickname at the top of the browser window. Click on “Edit Profile” in the drop down box. The second tab from the left is “Change Nickname”. Remember, please make sure that your new nickname is between 2 and 16 alphanumeric characters (letters and numbers) and does not consist of any spaces or periods (dashes and underscores are ok though) - our computers scream "RED" on spaces!
You should also check to see if anyone on the site is already using the nickname you want. A quick way to do this is to type in http://fetlife.com/usernameYOUwant in the URL bar. If there is someone with that username, it will bring them up. Otherwise it will take you to your activity feed.
Note: If you don't want to wait the 28 days, the caretakers can still change your nickname for you at any time, just make sure to email them from the email address attached to your profile, mention your current nickname and desired nickname so they can do it for you.
You know people want to know about you - come on, who wouldn't? To add text to your profile, click on your username in the header of any page on FetLife, and then on the "edit profile" link in the drop-down box.
On that page you will see several tabs, click on the one named "About You" and just start typing away. Once you have everything the way you want it, click the "Update" button and presto, the text will appear on your profile. Wash and repeat if you want to edit the text.
Currently, the list of locations only includes actual cities (don't shoot the messenger). We realize this is annoying and we need to fix it. However, we cannot fix the problem without overhauling the whole thing, so in the meantime, if your location is not listed, please pick the closest city to you until we can get and integrate a more thorough list of locations. Sorry for the inconvenience :(
Where in the World is Carmen Sandiego?; boy do I miss that game.
What we recommend you do is choose a location far enough from you that you are comfortable with yet in your general area. If you really want to be off the radar you can always just specify your country as "Antarctica"... There are more kinksters than you would think living in Antarctica. And apparently the penguin population is getting very nervous... For the leather, you pervs, the leather!!!
Yes, FetLife allows people to have multiple profiles. For example, MeanUberDom might have a secret fantasy about being spanked, and doesn't feel comfortable letting all his friends know - so he creates a secondary (also called alternate) profile called PlsSpankMeMommy to explore this side of his sexuality. His pictures there might not be of himself (but of course, still copy-right compliant!). The information about age and such changed to help him feel comfortable and not judged by others. But it is still the sort of profile allowed on FetLife.
There are some types of alternate profiles that we do not allow. For example:
If you click on a person's profile and you are taken back to the main activity feed, it could mean that A) the person has asked to be deleted and it is in the delete queue, or B) they've asked to be deactivated. Their posts and comments will remain until the profile is deleted or they reactivate their profile, and they are still visible in your friends list.