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At FetLife we're looking for caretakers to help us better serve the community.

The Job

As a caretaker, you will be responsible for reviewing and acting on reports on subjects that include but are not limited to: questionable content, interpersonal issues, copyright, and potential scammers.

As a caretaker, you will be responsible for:

  • Reviewing and handling reports in a consistent and timely manner
  • Documenting the rationale behind your decisions
  • Working with your teammates to resolve more challenging cases
  • Suggesting improvements to our guidelines and processes
  • Working as a team to help each other grow and learn

Available Shifts

The following shifts are currently available:

  • Shift #1: Sun-Thu: 11 AM - 8 PM EST
  • Shift #2: Fri-Sat: 11 AM - 8 PM EST & Sun-Mon: 12 PM - 9 PM EST
  • Shift #3: Fri-Sat: 8 PM - 5 AM EST & Sun-Mon: 8 PM - 1 AM EST

About you

We need you to have:

  • Passion for the kink community
  • Been a member of Fetlife and / or the community for 6+ months
  • Strong familiarity with FetLife and how the site works
  • Clear, concise, and effective written (English) communication skills
  • Know your way around the computer e.g. knowing keyboard shortcuts
  • A place you can work without any prying eyes being able to see over your shoulder
  • A computer with a webcam that supports a modern browser and loads pages efficiently
  • Fast and stable access to the internet

It is a bonus if you have experience:

  • Working remotely
  • Moderating an online community i.e., forum, group, community, etc.
  • Doing email support and handling a large volume of tickets a day
  • Being able to learn new computer programs in a timely manner
  • Maintaining technical documents and/or guidelines
  • Speaking, reading, and writing fluently in a language other than English

About Us

We are a small team working in an exciting, fast-paced, environment from multiple time zones. We are 100% remote and focus on asynchronous communication and collaboration through FetLife, Notion and Slack.

We are community driven, passionate and hard working but value focused productive work over long hours.

Working with us enables you to:

  • Have your work impact millions of people
  • Support the community from anywhere in the world
  • Gain a broader and deeper understanding of sexuality and kink

You can find our team and core values here.

How to Apply

Send an email to [email protected]. In the email, please include:

  • Brief introduction of yourself
  • A link to your LinkedIn profile and/or a copy of your resume in PDF format
  • A link to your FetLife profile(s)
  • Shift(s) you are available to work from the “Available Shifts” list above

If you have any questions or concerns, please don't hesitate to email us at [email protected]!

Frequently Asked Questions

Q. Will I be an official employee of BitLove HQ?

These are contractor positions - you will be responsible for filing your own taxes.

Q. Can I do this anonymously?

We do not share with the community which caretaker has handled which case. But, you will be listed as a Caretaker both on your profile and on our team page and you will need to have a face photo as your profile picture.

Q. Do I have to do cases involving my friends?

A caretaker is not allowed to handle any case where any type of bias might exist.

Q. Can I do this from my cellphone?

No, sorry. When working, you need to be working from a computer.

Q. Can I do this from a couple's or shared profile?

No. As a caretaker, nobody else but you should have access to your account.

Q. What's the starting rate?

Caretakers start at the $18.23 USD per hour and are paid bi-weekly as contractors.

Q: Do caretakers get time off on national or federal holidays (I.e. Christmas day)?

FetLife is active #24/7/365! So, we need to have at least one caretaker working every hour of the day, every day. Caretakers are therefore generally required to work national or federal holidays too.

If this position is not a fit for you or not what you are looking for, have a look at our career page to see what other positions we currently have open. Also, make sure to to be notified when new positions open up.