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Why join FetLife?
A Community for Everyone
No matter where you are in your sexual journey, FetLife has something for you.
Explore and Learn
With 156,928 groups and 4,736,840 writings, FetLife is the best place to explore your kinks and sexuality.
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With 12,764 upcoming events you can find local and virtual workshops, munches, and play parties near you.
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FetLife is not a dating site, which makes it the best place to meet new friends, play partners, and life partners.
We celebrate our diversity and our uniqueness. There is no one right way, there is only the right way for you.
We don't sell or share your data and on deletion of your account we permanently delete everything.
By Kinksters, For Kinksters
We are not a faceless corporation. We are kinksters just like you who needed a place to call home.
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We don't get in the way of you interacting with people and having fun. People can support us for nice to have features.
Be Your Authentic Self
Unlike other places on the internet, on FetLife you can be your complete authentic self.
“Candidly, I LOVE this place. I've been telling my friends someone finally got it right.”— Jay Wiseman, author of SM 101
What can I find on FetLife?
Explore, Discover, Learn
With over 881,329 fetishes and kinks, there's something for everyone. Here's some of the most popular ones: