FetLife is the Most Popular Social Network for the BDSM, Fetish & Kinky Community.
12,133,260Members
A beautifully diverse community of members from all over the world.FetLife's Mission
Help people feel comfortable with who they are sexually.
Why join FetLife?
A Community for Everyone
No matter where you are in your sexual journey, FetLife has something for you.
Explore and Learn
With 188,842 groups, and 6,196,346 writings, FetLife is the best place to explore your kinks and sexuality.
Find Local Events
With 26,574 upcoming events you can find local and virtual workshops, munches, and play parties near you.
Not a Meat Market
FetLife is not a dating site, which makes it the best place to meet new friends, play partners, and life partners.
Beautifully Diverse
We celebrate our diversity and our uniqueness. There is no one right way, there is only the right way for you.
Privacy First
We don't sell or share your data and on deletion of your account we permanently delete everything.
By Kinksters, For Kinksters
We are not a faceless corporation. We are kinksters just like you who needed a place to call home.
It's 99.9% Free
We don't get in the way of you interacting with people and having fun. People can support us for nice to have features.
Be Your Authentic Self
Unlike other places on the internet, on FetLife you can be your complete authentic self.
Helping Make the Internet Safer
We've partnered with StopNCII and Take It Down to help prevent the non-consensual sharing of intimate pictures and videos online.
“Candidly, I LOVE this place. I've been telling my friends someone finally got it right.”
— Jay Wiseman, author of SM 101Testimonials
Don't Take our Word for it
Thousands of members have found friendships, a community, love, and much more on FetLife. Here are just a few of their stories:
“Because of Fetlife, I have met so many wonderful people, been to dozens upon dozens of amazing events, learned an incredible amount, and overall developed and grew as a person. I have found and explored kinks and interests I may have never considered. I have had the opportunity to play with some fantastic partners I never would have otherwise met.”
“It is truly the best engineered website of its type and is in a class of its own. I have met several like-minded "kinksters" as you call us, and have developed a number of close friendships. I hope to be a member for many years.”
“I've been on FetLife for almost 15 years, from the very beginning. I've met, played with, and had sex with some of the most amazingly beautiful people inside and out. Because of Fetlife, I've been to glamorous events and met interesting people from all over the world. I've built relationships and even got legally married to my first wife directly because of FetLife. Literally!”
“If it weren't for this site I never would have met the woman I'm going to marry. We started chatting on FetLife, started dating five years ago, and we are officially getting married this weekend.”
“You had the vision and the foresight to create one of the only positive adult fetish-based websites. One of the only social media stages where people of all colors, creeds, nationalities, sexual preferences, and genders can actively be themselves and interact with others in almost any way they choose.”
“This site has its flaws, but its core membership is authentic, kind, and cuttingly intelligent. I don't know why the kink scene attracts people of this caliber, but it does. You have quite literally turned me into a different person - and a happier one at that.”
“I never expected people to like the pictures I take, to me it was an old hobby dusted and forgotten. But you inspired me and motivated me in a way I had never foreseen. So I want to thank you for that. Thank you for lighting that fire once again inside of me.”
“This site has gifted me friendships, experiences, growth, and connectivity through the many years I've belonged.”
“I never thought it would be possible to be where I am today - getting an incredible amount of love on here and meeting so many wonderful kinksters.”
“Joining FetLife was a major factor in my life taking a turn for the better. I have gained so much from what I have learned here and the wonderful support I've been given.”
“The validation from comments on my photos has done wonderful things for my body confidence - a real gift from FetLife”
“My interests have always been a bit different than most folks, and I felt like I was supposed to be ashamed of that. Now I know there are many others just like me, who won't judge.”
“It is impossible to describe how freeing and wondrous this site has been for me. We only get one life to live, and you deciding to make a place where people don't feel ashamed of their kink was a fantastic way to use yours.”
“I especially like how you (FetLife) come out and get the community involved in new features. It's refreshing in an environment of opaque and stale faceless social media mega corps.”
“This site is fantastic, professional, and user-friendly. It gives people like me a chance to safely explore a brand new world. It shows how much effort you put in.”
Time to Create your Own FetLife Story?
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Explore, Discover, Learn
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“Fetlife is the OG kink social networking site. It's great for finding like-minded kink friends in your area and finding events like munches to go to locally.”
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