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We. Are. FetLife!

Not to be confused with the Spartans.

Meet the Team

A beautifully diverse group of kinksters that care deeply about the community and FetLife's mission.

JohnBaku46M Dom
North Vancouver, British Columbia, Canada
Pairadox62M Master
Cajón, San José, Costa Rica
J_65M Switch
Maple Ridge, British Columbia, Canada
Banshee58F Sensualist
Georgia, United States
AwkwardRocks101M Kinkster
Østfold, Norway
Customer Support
United States
Caretaker Coordinator
Singed40M Slut
Barcelona, Spain
DoodleMe31M Rigger
Leuven, Flemish Brabant, Belgium
Cat_JustCat47F raccoon
WaitForDark33F Switch
Charlotte, North Carolina, United States
Customer Support Coordinator
Dracheo28F Hedonist
North Bay, Ontario, Canada
Customer Support
DropDeadStacey35F Evolving
Liberty Hill, Texas, United States
GreenRabbit32M Exploring
Bratislava, Bratislava, Slovakia
Jennaaayyy47girl Sadomasochist
Tuscaloosa, Alabama, United States
Caretaker Coordinator
Teeka26GF Smart Ass Sadomasochist
Toronto, Ontario, Canada
AliceTryx31F Switch
Dundee, United Kingdom
Customer Support
SickkPuppy29F Sadist
British Columbia, Canada
Anttiray35M Kinkster
Kyiv, Ukraine
R4mon32M Rubberist
PutWhatWhere31FEM kitten
United Kingdom
Customer Support
JLST_133M Switch
West Flanders, Belgium
Product Owner
Ristrodin31M Top
Rijswijk, South Holland, Netherlands
Firecraxer52F toy
Kilkenny, Kilkenny, Ireland
Novi Sad, South Bačka, Serbia
Product Designer
CutieHoney35F Vixen
Ohio, United States
Caretaker Coordinator
maeve-suave28F Fairy Kink Mother
Stockholm, Stockholm, Sweden
KinkyDataNerd32M Rope Slut
Zoetermeer, South Holland, Netherlands
Data Analyst
VictoriaCage40F Alpha submissive
Customer Support
OmgPru36FEM Smart Ass Masochist
San Antonio, Texas, United States
Caretaker Coordinator
Svidna30FEM Vampire
Sofia, Sofia, Bulgaria
MissJamilla30F Bitch
Florida, United States
xxyborg33IS Himbo
Louisiana, United States
Customer Support
OldCrowShitShow28FEM Switch
Louisiana, United States
Buenos Aires, Argentina
nfk41M Gentleman
pavlo_qa_29Man Dom





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FetLife's Mission

“Help people feel comfortable with who they are sexually.”

Our Core Values

As a team we live by our values in everything we do.

Community Driven

  • Focus on projects that have the highest impact on the community relative to effort.
  • Make incremental experience refinements where the improvement is worth the relearning.
  • Listen to our members, understand where they are coming from, and then over-deliver.
  • Be an active member of FetLife so that you can better empathize with other members.
  • Be inspired by the community and its beautiful diversity.

Work Hard, Work Smart

  • Never stop looking for a better solution.
  • It is okay to make mistakes, just always make sure to learn from them.
  • Focus on our mission and goals, don’t get caught up in tasks.
  • Diagnose problems to get to the root cause.
  • Make sure to re-question assumptions.
  • When dealing with the same issue multiple times, find a permanent solution.
  • Take pride in, and ownership of, whatever you’re working on.
  • Don’t worry about looking good - worry about achieving our goals.
  • Always work on improving yourself and your craft.

Teamwork Makes The Dream Work

  • Hold each other to high standards and work through any disagreements.
  • Have thoughtful disagreements to both learn from, and increase the odds of, making good decisions.
  • Disagree, but when a decision has been made, move forward united as one team.
  • Team morale and smooth functioning take precedence over your need to be right - besides, you could be wrong.
  • If you run into a problem, reach out to someone who has the authority to solve your problem. Never complain or gossip.
  • Hold yourself and the people around you accountable, and appreciate the people around you for holding you accountable.

Communicate, Communicate, Communicate

  • Without exception, be respectful to each member of the team.
  • Listen and try to understand everyone’s viewpoint before reacting.
  • Be truthful and straightforward in your feedback with everyone.
  • Have strong opinions weakly held, while remaining open-minded.
  • Provide constant and accurate feedback to your teammates and the organization.

Do the Right Thing

  • Do it right, or don’t do it at all.
  • Doing the right thing is almost always more important than following a process.
  • Quickly recognize and admit mistakes when you’ve made them.
  • If something goes wrong, don't pass the buck, take responsibility.
  • Never put comfort ahead of success, it produces worse results for everyone.

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