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We. Are. FetLife!

Not to be confused with the Spartans.

Meet the Team

A beautifully diverse group of kinksters that care deeply about the community and FetLife's mission.

nfk
nfk42M Gentleman
Spain
Engineer
Jennaaayyy
Jennaaayyy48girl Sadomasochist
Tuscaloosa, Alabama, United States
Caretaker Coordinator
JohnBaku
JohnBaku47M Dom
North Vancouver, British Columbia, Canada
CEO
MissJamilla
MissJamilla31F Bitch
Florida, United States
Caretaker Coordinator
shone23
Novi Sad, South Bačka, Serbia
Product Designer
DropDeadStacey
Liberty Hill, Texas, United States
Caretaker
Svidna
Svidna31FEM Strawberry
Sofia, Sofia, Bulgaria
Caretaker
CrinkleDork
CrinkleDork36MtF babygirl
Antarctica
Customer Support
Anttiray
Anttiray36M Kinkster
Kyiv, Ukraine
Engineer
Cupuycblack1
Tbilisi, Tbilisi, Georgia
Engineer
XxTinaxX
XxTinaxX28F Brat
Portugal
Caretaker
DoodleMe
DoodleMe32M Rigger
Leuven, Flemish Brabant, Belgium
Engineer
Teeka
Teeka27GF Smart Ass Sadomasochist
Toronto, Ontario, Canada
Caretaker
Momma_G
Momma_G59F Kinkster
Georgia, United States
Caretaker
Cat_JustCat
Canada
Caretaker
TheBruxa
TheBruxa26F Succubus
Australia
Caretaker
SickkPuppy
SickkPuppy30F Sadist
British Columbia, Canada
Caretaker
RshMbo
RshMbo35M Roleplayer
Bratislava, Bratislava, Slovakia
Engineer
Tdotlyn
Tdotlyn43W sub
Canada
Kinktionary Curator
just_a_chill_guy
just_a_chill_guy32M Exploring
Kraków, Lesser Poland Voivodeship, Poland
Engineer
B-u-n-n-y
B-u-n-n-y35F Vanilla
Sofia, Sofia, Bulgaria
Caretaker
JLST_1
JLST_134M Switch
West Flanders, Belgium
Project Manager
messymortician
Chicago, Illinois, United States
Caretaker
OldCrowShitShow
OldCrowShitShow29FEM fucktoy
Louisiana, United States
Caretaker
R4mon
R4mon33M Rubberist
Canada
COO
pavlo_qa_
pavlo_qa_30Man Switch
Batumi, Adjara, Georgia
Tester
clairegalaire
Canada
Caretaker
maeve-suave
maeve-suave29F Fairy Kink Mother
Barcelona, Barcelona, Spain
Caretaker
Ristrodin
Ristrodin32M Top
Rockanje, South Holland, Netherlands
Engineer
Vonmewis
Vonmewis45M Bratty Dom
Grenoble, Isère, France
Engineer
OmgPru
OmgPru37FEM Bitch
San Antonio, Texas, United States
Caretaker Coordinator
CutieHoney
CutieHoney36F Vixen
Florida, United States
Caretaker Coordinator
WaitForDark
WaitForDark34F Switch
Charlotte, North Carolina, United States
Customer Support Coordinator
J_
J_66M Switch
Maple Ridge, British Columbia, Canada
Caretaker
PutWhatWhere
PutWhatWhere32FEM kitten
United Kingdom
Customer Support
Tree_Spoon
Canada
Caretaker
em_a_se
em_a_se28NB Sadomasochist
Philippines
Caretaker
vulgar
vulgar69 degradee
Saint Louis, Missouri, United States
Customer Support
KinkyDataNerd
KinkyDataNerd33M Rope Slut
Zoetermeer, South Holland, Netherlands
Data Analyst
Pairadox
Pairadox63M Master
Cajón, San José, Costa Rica
Legal
AwkwardRocks
AwkwardRocks102M Kinkster
Antarctica
Customer Support

Diversity

47.2%

LGBTQIA2S+

25.0%

Gender Nonconforming

11.1%

BIPOC

FetLife's Mission

“Help people feel comfortable with who they are sexually.”

Our Core Values

As a team we live by our values in everything we do.

Community Driven

  • Focus on projects that have the highest impact on the community relative to effort.
  • Make incremental experience refinements where the improvement is worth the relearning.
  • Listen to our members, understand where they are coming from, and then over-deliver.
  • Be an active member of FetLife so that you can better empathize with other members.
  • Be inspired by the community and its beautiful diversity.

Work Hard, Work Smart

  • Never stop looking for a better solution.
  • It is okay to make mistakes, just always make sure to learn from them.
  • Focus on our mission and goals, don’t get caught up in tasks.
  • Diagnose problems to get to the root cause.
  • Make sure to re-question assumptions.
  • When dealing with the same issue multiple times, find a permanent solution.
  • Take pride in, and ownership of, whatever you’re working on.
  • Don’t worry about looking good - worry about achieving our goals.
  • Always work on improving yourself and your craft.

Teamwork Makes The Dream Work

  • Hold each other to high standards and work through any disagreements.
  • Have thoughtful disagreements to both learn from, and increase the odds of, making good decisions.
  • Disagree, but when a decision has been made, move forward united as one team.
  • Team morale and smooth functioning take precedence over your need to be right - besides, you could be wrong.
  • If you run into a problem, reach out to someone who has the authority to solve your problem. Never complain or gossip.
  • Hold yourself and the people around you accountable, and appreciate the people around you for holding you accountable.

Communicate, Communicate, Communicate

  • Without exception, be respectful to each member of the team.
  • Listen and try to understand everyone’s viewpoint before reacting.
  • Be truthful and straightforward in your feedback with everyone.
  • Have strong opinions weakly held, while remaining open-minded.
  • Provide constant and accurate feedback to your teammates and the organization.

Do the Right Thing

  • Do it right, or don’t do it at all.
  • Doing the right thing is almost always more important than following a process.
  • Quickly recognize and admit mistakes when you’ve made them.
  • If something goes wrong, don't pass the buck, take responsibility.
  • Never put comfort ahead of success, it produces worse results for everyone.

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