HMU BIPOC: Friday the ThirTEASE (A Kisses & Kink Event)
Hit Me Up - NYC’s Premier Space for ENM and Kink
New York City, New York, United States
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Description
Have you been waiting to try a HMU event but never felt like you’d be well represented? Curious about play parties and want to dip a toe in, but not ready for the full thing? Or maybe you’re simply looking for somewhere a little naughty, a little spooky, and stocked with great snacks for a Friday night?
This November Friday the 13th, the veil gets a little thinner… and those spicy folks hiding in the shadows start to emerge. 🕯️👀
You’ll feel right at home here at Hit Me Up BIPOC: Tease. This event is an R-rated (not X rated) party for you to mix and mingle, try out some new things, and generally enjoy the vibe. Dip a toe in without dipping in . . . any other body parts.
You can expect a LOT of making out, sexual tension, kink tasting stations, snacks, ice-breaker games, dancing, and general naughty debauchery. It's also a great place to bring a beverage and relax and chat in one of the many lounge areas.
This is an R-rated (not X) sexy party. This is NOT a full-on play party. Underwear bottoms must be kept on!
💋 R-Rated Activities Galore: Options may include...Spin the Bottle, Sexy Truth or Dare, Lingerie Twister, and more!
🎥 Chill Zones: Cuddle area with mattresses, chill tunes, and low-fi ambiance.
😈 Kinky Tasting Stations: Light kink stations including spanking benches, St. Andrew's Cross, rope ties, and more.
🍿 Bar & Snacks: BYOB, with sodas and light snacks served.
👛 Dress code: We recommend all black or something nice. A bit of kinky flair is always welcome. If you look like you're going to try to pitch us on a totally fair fantasy football trade or the landlord hustle lifestyle, you'll probably have less fun.
More details
Our goal with opening BIPOC Tease to the broader community is to create an even more vibrant space for connection, celebration, and new relationships. This event remains centered on and intended for BIPOC attendees, and we also warmly welcome non-BIPOC partners, dates, and plus-ones to attend alongside them. We hope expanding attendance will strengthen the community, make it easier for new people to connect, and help grow this space together.
We will have guardians on duty to make sure everyone is respectful, comfortable, and follows the rules.
For those who haven't yet attended an HMU event, BIPOC Tease is also a great opportunity to complete the application process and join us for future vetted events.
For our vetted members, this is a great chance to introduce yourself to the community and for us to get to know you so that we can invite you to our private events. If you're already a private member, HMU Tease is the perfect opportunity to make some new connections leading up to our upcoming private events.
Come mingle, kiss, spank, drink, and dance it off at the HMU loft with a lovely crowd of melanated friends!
About Your Organizer
Erebus is a New York–based dating coach, kink educator, and event organizer with a passion for fostering healthy, fulfilling connections. Identifying as a Dom and Sensual Sadist, Erebus brings a grounded, community-centered approach to conversations around intimacy, communication, and alternative relationship dynamics. Through education, events, and coaching, Erebus aims to create spaces where people can explore connection, authenticity, and pleasure without shame.
FAQs
FAQ: who is this event for? can I bring my white partner?
This event is open to the public, with a focus on BIPOC attendees. Though white partners/plus-ones are welcome, please ensure they respect that this event is centered around providing a safe(r) space for BIPOC community members.
FAQ: what should I bring?
This event is BYOB and BYOT! Bring your favorite libations and toys to keep the good times flowin'!
FAQ: what should I wear?
Preferably something all black or kink-inspired
FAQ: can I attend solo, or do I need to come with a partner?
You can come either partnered or solo!
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