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Nightshade: The FemDom Speakeasy

The fall edition of Lair Derriere's D/s social and play party!

27 Going·4 Interested
Sat, Nov 21, 2026
7:00 PM - 11:30 PM EST

Asheville, North Carolina, United States

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Description

A fully-vetted, limited-capacity, invitation-only, FemDom event

Step inside, shed the ordinary, and embrace the dark at Asheville’s original Nightshade.

  • All guests must present as either FemDom or submissive. No male Doms. No male domination.
  • $50 for FemDoms; $60 for submissives. All-inclusive admission: atmosphere, play party + games, cocktails, mocktails, munchies.
  • Downtown Asheville location - disclosed to ticketholders closer to the event.
  • Doors open at 7:00pm and lock at 7:30pm. To protect the container: no late entry, no exceptions!

Note, if you are new:

  • Nightshade is a FemDom D/s play party and social event, designed to make and deepen connections, and to produce creative, connected FemDom scenes.
  • If you are looking for a sex party, swingers event, or BDSM workshop, this is NOT the evening for you.

WE WILL SELL OUT! How to request an invitation

Submit your request by clicking "Interested" in the RSVP button above. If we know you already and/or you have attended before, we will respond. If you are new to Lair Derriere events, you must also send us an introductory message that includes:

  • A brief introduction - describe your kink persona
  • Your experience level - newbies, don’t be shy!
  • Your interests and abilities

You will be immediately denied if...

  • You are new to us and you RSVP without also sending an introductory message
  • Your profile is brand new, sparse, and/or suspicious
  • Your profile is male Dom

Invitations and tickets

  • Vetted and approved guests receive private invitations via FetLife mail - and must then purchase a ticket.
  • One ticket per invitation.
  • All guests must be a friend or follower of Lair Derriere to receive an invite.
  • All referrals and +1’s must request attendance on their own, via FetLife. No profile, no way in.
  • All ticket sales are final. Tickets are non-transferable and non-refundable.
  • Unused tickets = Lair Derriere donations.

Your space is only secure after you actually buy a ticket!

  • An invitation does NOT guarantee admission! Nightshade tickets sales are first-come, first-served. We do not hold tickets for “interested” or “undecided”.

Regarding price

  • We acknowledge affordability is a challenge for many. This event is a labor of love, not a profit center. We do not offer discounts and we will not haggle. If you doubt the value or don’t have the funds, do not RSVP.

Dress Code requirements

  • Dress with effort!
  • All guests: Visibly kinky attire. Leave your jeans, t-shirts, and sneakers at home. Proper hygiene is a must! No heavy colognes, perfumes, or scents.
  • FemDoms: Wear what makes you feel powerful, haughty, and alluring. Follow us on Instagram for dress code inspiration. Bring your own implements, gear, tools, and restraints. (We also have some for communal use.)
  • submissives: You absolutely must be wearing a collar at the door to gain entry. Collars must stay on the entire time. Cute, sexy underwear/lingerie is permitted. No basic briefs or boxer shorts are allowed.