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FetLife's guidelines, privacy policy, legal info, etc.

Community Guidelines

Our number one priority is to create a fun and safe place for kinksters, like you and I, to call home here on the interwebs.

To make sure FetLife is a fun and safe place, we wrote the following list of general community guidelines we would like everyone to respect.

Just remember that your participation on FetLife is always subject to our Terms of Use.

Enjoy Yourself

No, seriously, enjoy yourself! If this is your first time joining a kinky community we know it can be scary at first. We recommend you go at a pace that you feel most comfortable. Join groups that catch your attention, read what other people have to say, participate in discussions and strike up conversations with people that pique your interest.

Play Nice

It is ok to disagree with someone, but it is another thing altogether to attack them. We don't accept aggressive personal attacks, criminal accusations, making fun of, trolling, flaming, bullying, racial slurs… pretty much any type of disrespectful behaviour that degrades the quality of discussions and people's experience here on FetLife.

People don't come to FetLife to be abused… unless of course that is their kink… in that case we don't judge :-p.

“I totally disagree with you”

…is ok.

“I think you are a dumb ass fucktard”

…is not ok.

Be Open-Minded and Non-Judgemental

People often say to us how they love the fact that FetLife's community is so open-minded and non-judgemental, and we are proud of that.

Please help us make sure FetLife stays this way. There is no place on here for any “my kink is ok but yours is not” attitude.

No Pictures or Videos of Kids Allowed

The community has spoken and they do not want to see any pictures or videos of people under the age of 18 on FetLife. It is not illegal to have innocent pictures or videos of kids on sites like FetLife but the community prefers we keep a 18+ rule.

You Must Be At Least 18 Years Old

To join FetLife you need to be at least 18 years old. Each person matures at a different speed and you might feel you are ready to join a site like FetLife when you are 17, but you need to wait until your 18th birthday to join FetLife.

Think Twice Before You Hit “Say It!”

You can remove any content on your profile at any time. It is your profile after all!

You should think twice though before you start or comment on any discussions. To maintain the integrity of discussions we don't remove the original post or any comments unless they break one of our guidelines or our Terms of Use.

Only Post Pictures and Videos You Own or Have The Rights to Post

You should only upload pictures and videos which you have taken or which you were given permission to post on FetLife.

Has someone taken one of your pictures or videos and uploaded it to FetLife without your permission? Not cool, not cool at all! But, we can take them down for you. Check out our Terms of Use for more information on how to report copyright infringements.

Private Conversations Should Be Kept Private

Private conversations between two members should stay private, unless of course, the two people who were having the conversation both agree to it being posted publicly. It is just common courtesy.

Don't Out Anyone

Each person on FetLife is comfortable with different pieces of their personal information being revealed. Some people don't mind you using their full real name and others don't want you to even use their first name. Please make a conscious effort to respect each person's comfort level.

Also, to protect members of the community, we don't allow phone numbers or addresses to be posted publicly on FetLife unless they are for a business, organization or event.

Take Everything You Read With A Grain of Salt

FetLife is for entertainment, informational, and educational purposes only. What people post is not verified by anyone for its accuracy. What you read on FetLife should not be construed as actual, professional advice. You should always consult a qualified professional.

Spam and Cross-Posting

Who likes spam here please raise your hand? You over there in the back of the class… are you serious? I didn't think so.

Since nobody likes spam other than spammers, we promise to protect you from it to the best of our ability. This includes cross-posting. We will not tolerate anyone posting the same message more than 3 times a day anywhere publicly on FetLife.

Someone Breaks One Of Our Community Guidelines

We don't scan FetLife other than for spam or scammers. So if you come across something that goes against our community guidelines, it is probably because nobody reported it. Please don't hesitate to report anything that does not look kosher to [email protected] and one of our Caretakers will investigate.

More detailed information about what happens when a guideline is broken can be found in the guideline pages in our content guideline section.

1% Of Your Action Belongs To Us

We have no clue how we are going to claim this but we want 1% of the action you are getting from this site. Yeah, you heard me right. While we are working our asses off to grow FetLife you are getting action and we want 1% of it, damn it! We think it is only fair. ;-)

Got Questions or Suggestions?

If you ever need clarification on any part of the community guidelines or have a question, suggestion, a bit of feedback, or a problem with the site, please feel free to contact us at [email protected].

Changes to the Community Guidelines

Like FetLife itself, the Community Guidelines will evolve over time, so make sure to check back often for updates.