Guidelines & Legalese
FetLife's guidelines, privacy policy, legal info, etc.
Minors, CSA, and CSAM
Under no circumstances can someone post a picture or video that includes a minor, or any content that eroticizes minors.
What is in violation of this guideline?
Under this guideline, the following are not allowed on FetLife:
Any real or photorealistic visual content of a minor, sexualized or not. Examples include, but are not limited to:
- Minor appearing in the background of a picture or video
- Sex doll that is indistinguishable from a human minor
- Picture of a real or photorealistic minor on a package
- Meme that includes a real or photorealistic minor
- Photorealistic depiction of a minor in AI, CGI, etc.
- Photorealistic depiction of a minor in an illustration, drawing, painting, etc.
- Photorealistic depiction of a minor in a tattoo
- Picture or video of yourself as a minor
- Child sexual abuse material (CSAM)
Any description or depiction of sexualized minors. Examples include, but are not limited to:
- Underage cartoon characters in an eroticized context
- Written descriptions of a minor in an eroticized context
- Caption that eroticizes or promotes sexual contact with a minor
- Eroticizing your own CSA or the CSA of another person
- Fantasizing about physically teaching minor about sex (e.g. grooming)
Any potential CSA dog whistles. Examples include, but are not limited to:
- Wanting to talk about or watch the "filthiest things" in the context of “taboo”
- Saying you can’t discuss the content on-site and have to take it to private off-site chat
- Looking for people to help make a no limits fantasy come true
- Inviting people to no limits off-site group chat
- Looking for no limits off-site chat
- Wanting to create a taboo family
- Mention of no limit black market or dark web content
Any groups created or found to be used for the purpose of finding others to potentially eroticize minors. Examples include, but are not limited to:
- No limit taboo groups
- No limit off-site private chat groups
- Using a dog whistle in the description or rules of a group
What is not in violation of this guideline?
The following examples are not in violation of this guideline:
- Survivors describing childhood abuse in a non-eroticized context
How do I report a violation of this guideline?
You can report a potential violation of this guideline by:
- Visiting the page with the potentially offensive material
- Selecting "...", “more”, or “options”, then select “Report”
- Selecting "Content Not Permitted" or “Other Reason”
- Selecting "Next"
- Providing any additional information that can help the person reviewing the report
- Selecting "Report"
For more information, you can refer to Submitting a Report.
Who can report a violation of this guideline?
Anyone who comes across anything they believe might fall under this guideline. When it comes to anything involving minors, it’s always better to be safe than sorry.
What happens if someone violates this guideline?
If we believe a picture or video is CSAM, we lock the person out of their account, preserve the account, and report the account to law enforcement. Once the account is reported to law enforcement, we permanently delete the account.
To see how many accounts we remove for CSAM, see our Transparency report.