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Kink Shaming

YKINMKATO: Your kink is Not My Kink And That’s Okay

FetLife is meant to be a welcoming place for all members of the community. The community takes pride in being accepting, where people with all sorts of consensual kinky interests feel comfortable being who they are.

Kink shaming does not create a warm and welcoming environment and is not permitted.

What is in violation of this guideline?

Examples include, but are not limited to:

  • Shaming another member for participating in a consensual kink

What is not in violation of this guideline?

Examples include:

  • Asking questions about people's kinks
  • Discussing potential issues involving kinks or dynamics
  • Intellectual discussions

IMPORTANT: As long as the above are not being used to attack.

How do I report a potential violation of this guideline?

Report a potential violation as follows:

  1. Visit the page with the potentially offensive material
  2. Select "...", “More”, or “Options”, then select “Report”
  3. Select “Content Not Permitted” or "Other Reason"
  4. Select "Next"
  5. Add any additional information
  6. Select "Report"

For more information, you can refer to Submitting a Report.

Who can report a potential violation of this guideline?

Anyone who comes across content they believe might fall under this guideline.

What happens if someone violates this guideline?

If someone violates this guideline, the content is removed, and they receive a warning. After three warnings, they get a one-day time-out.

With each additional violation, the time-out length increases, and they risk losing their account.

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