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Exchange of Sex Acts

For the protection of the community, we can’t allow anyone to offer or solicit a sex act in exchange for money, goods, or services on FetLife.

What is considered a sex act?

Sex acts are defined as:

  • mouth, hand, foot to/on vagina, penis, or anus
  • penetration of the vagina or anus, by a penis, hand, or object
  • penetration of the penis, by a hand or object

What is in violation of this guideline?

Examples include, but are not limited to:

  • Offering or asking for a sex act in exchange for money, goods or services:
    • e.g. soliciting pegging and/or CBT
    • e.g. for-profit event where paid talent is performing a sex act on attendees
    • e.g. paid raffle, lottery, or similar where the prize is a sex act
    • e.g. soliciting housing in exchange for sexual acts
  • Posting or linking directly to a price list that includes a sex act

Note: Euphemisms such as “roses” for money, “girlfriend experience” for sex acts, “FSSW” for Full-Service Sex Worker etc., will be considered in context.

What is not in violation of this guideline?

The following is not in violation of this guideline:

  • Buying or selling content that contain nudity or sex acts
  • Soliciting a fetish service that does not include a sex act

How do I report a potential violation of this guideline?

You can report material that is potentially in violation of this guideline as follows:

Report public posts as follows:

  1. Visit the page with the potentially offensive material
  2. Select "...", “More”, or “Options”, then select “Report”
  3. Select “Content is not permitted"
  4. Select "Next"
  5. Add any additional information
  6. Select "Report"

Report a private message as follows:

  1. Visit the private conversation
  2. Select “Report”
  3. Select “Exchange of Sex Acts for Goods”
  4. Checkmark the box “Send a copy of this private conversation with your report to FetLife so we can review it”
  5. Select “Next”
  6. Add any additional information
  7. Select “Report Member”

For more general information on reporting, please visit: Submitting a Report.

Who can report a potential violation of this guideline?

Anyone who comes across content they believe might fall under this guideline.

What happens if someone violates this guideline?

If someone violates this guideline, the content is removed, and they receive a timeout. If the person continues to violate the guideline, they risk permanently losing their account.