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Exchange of Sex Acts

For legal reasons, for the protection of FetLife, and the community, we can’t allow anyone to offer or solicit a sex act in exchange for money, goods, or services.

What is considered a sex act?

Sex acts are defined as:

  • mouth, hand, foot to/on vagina, penis, or anus
  • penetration, however slight, of the vagina by a penis, hand, or object
  • penetration, however slight, of the penis by a hand or object
  • penetration, however slight, of the anus by a penis, hand, or object

What is in violation of this guideline?

Examples include, but are not limited to:

  • Offering or soliciting a sex act for money
  • Soliciting the sale or purchase of people who provide sex acts (e.g. sex slave)
  • Offering a sex act to the winner of a paid raffle, lottery, or similar
  • Offering or soliciting housing in exchange for sex acts
  • For-profit events where there is paid talent available to perform sex acts on attendees
  • Posting or linking directly to a price list that includes sex acts

Note: Euphemisms such as “roses” for money, “girlfriend experience” for sex acts, “FSSW” for Full-Service Sex Worker etc., will be considered in context.

What is not in violation of this guideline?

The following is not in violation of this guideline:

  • Offering to sell or purchase pictures or videos that depict nudity or sex acts
  • Offering or soliciting to pay for a fetish service that does not include a sex act

How do I report a potential violation of this guideline?

You can report potential Exchange of Sex Acts for Goods and Services as follows:

On Desktop:

  1. Visit the page with the infringing content
  2. Select “Options” or “...”
  3. Select "Report"
  4. Select "Content is not permitted"
  5. Select "Next"
  6. Provide why you believe the material should not be allowed
  7. Select "Report"

On Mobile:

  1. Visit the page with the infringing content
  2. Select "..."
  3. Select "Report"
  4. Select "Content is not permitted"
  5. Select "Next"
  6. Provide why you believe the material should not be allowed:
  7. Select "Report"

By Email: (only for non-members)

  1. Send an email to [email protected]
  2. In the email, please provide:
    1. Direct link to the infringing content
    2. Guideline you believe the content breaks
    3. Any additional information you believe will help
  3. Send email

For more general information on reporting, please visit: Submitting a Report.

Who can report a potential violation of this guideline?

Anyone who comes across content they believe might fall under this guideline.

What happens if someone violates this guideline?

If we believe the content is in violation of the guideline, the content is removed and the person is given a three-day timeout.

For each subsequent violation, the person's time-out doubles in length. They also risk permanently losing their account.