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Kinktionary

More like guidelines and a lot less like definitions.

Abbreviations

Common kinky abbreviations and acronyms.

Genders

Gender abbreviations used on profiles

Types of Play

Identity & Body Types

A full list of the gender abbreviations used on FetLife profiles can be found on the main gender page

  • Ace - Asexual
  • Aro - Aromantic
  • Aroace or Aro/Ace - Asexual and Aromantic
  • BBC - Big Black Cock - Usually refers to an above-average cock belonging to anyone who is black.
  • BBW - Big Beautiful Woman - A beautiful woman with a large figure.
  • SSBBW - Supersized Big Beautiful Woman - A beautiful woman with an exceptionally large figure, often considered to be over 350 pounds.
  • BBP - Big Beautiful Person - A beautiful person with a large figure.
  • BHC/BSC - Big Hispanic Cock - Usually refers to an above-average cock belonging to anyone that is Hispanic/Spanish.
  • BHM - Big Handsome Man - A handsome man with a large figure.
  • BWC - Big White Cock - Usually referring to an above- average cock belonging to anyone that is caucasian.
  • Enby - Non-binary - (the phonetic spelling of N B)
  • FBB Female Body Builder
  • FLINTA Female, Lesbian, Intersex, Non-binary, Trans & Agender.
  • GGG - Good, Giving and Game - A person who is an experienced, selfless lover and welcomes new sexual experiences
  • NB - Non-Black or Non-Binary
  • PAWG - Phat Ass White Girl - A white woman with a large, curvy butt.
  • TP - Tight Pussy - A vagina with well toned internal muscles that feels tight when inserted into.
  • TWD - Thick White Dick - A fetish category on FetLife emphasizing penis girth and a white male body.

Relationships & Dating

  • ASL - Age Sex Location - Used in dating to ask for the age, sex and location of a person. More commonly used as an abbreviation for American Sign Language
  • DILF - Dad I'd Like to Fuck - An attractive older man, usually a father.
  • DTR - Define the Relationship - It's an initiated conversation with your partner(s) to agree on what type of relationship you want together.
  • D2F / DTF - Down To Fuck - Interested in having sex.
  • ENM - Ethical Non-Monogamy
  • FWB - Friend(s) With Benefits - A friendly relationship, as opposed to a romantic one, that involves sex. Emotional connections are specifically on a friendly level, and romance is usually neither expected, nor even desired.*
  • LDD - Long Distance Dynamic
  • LDR - Long Distance Relationship
  • MBL - Married But Looking - The person is married but is looking for other relationships
  • MILF - Mother I'd Like to Fuck - An attractive older woman, usually a mother.
  • NSA - No Strings Attached - *Interested in sex without requiring a relationship, or potentially even any connection afterward. Potentially a one-night stand, or longer-term with no expectations of romance or relationships.
  • PILF - Parent I'd Like to Fuck - An attractive older person of any gender, usually a parent.
  • QPP - Queer Platonic Partner
  • RA - Relationship Anarchy
  • -PPE - Partial Power Exchange

Orientation

  • NBLM - Non-binary loving men, also known as Toric
  • NBLW - Non-binary loving women, also known as Trixic
  • WLW - Woman loving women, also known as Sapphic
  • MLM - Man loving men, also known as Achillean
  • WLM - Woman loving men, also known as Julietian
  • MLW - Man loving women, also known as Romeric

Concepts

  • CRISP - Considered Reversible Informed Specific Participatory. - A consent practice
  • FRIES - Freely given Reversible Informed Enthusiastic Specific. - A consent practice
  • PRICK - Personal Responsibility In Consensual Kink. - A consent practice
  • RACK - Risk Aware Consensual Kink - A consent practice
  • RASH - Risk Aware Shit Happens - A consent practice
  • RAVE - Risk Aware Virus Exposure - A consent practice
  • SSC - Safe Sane Consensual - A consent practice
  • SOP - Sex On Premises
  • WIITWD - What It Is That We Do. A mostly outdated, but still occasionally used term, to indicate the expanse of kinky activities in an attempt to be more inclusive than 'BDSM'. Occasionally referred to verbally as 'WIT-wood'
  • YKINMK / YKINMKBYKIOK - Your Kink Is Not My Kink / Your Kink Is Not My Kink But Your Kink Is Okay. - A way of expressing disinterest in something without invalidating someone else's enjoyment of it.

Sex Work Terms

  • DFK - Deep French Kissing - Deep open mouth kissing.
  • GFE - GirlFriend Experience - A service (often paid for) where someone agrees to act like a girlfriend without being in a relationship e.g: chat, cuddle, kiss.
  • PFP - Pay For Play
  • PSE - Porn Star Experience - A service (often paid for) where someone agrees to be a very athletic and energetic sexual partner

Other Shorthand

  • 304 - Hoe - When read upside down on a calculator 304 looks like the word 'hoe.' Used on certain platforms to bypass adult word filters.
  • D&DF / DDF - Drug and Disease Free - A person who has no sexually transmitted infections and doesn't consume recreational drugs.
  • F&P - On FetLife, this means Fresh & Pervy and represents one of the ways to explore the site.
  • FOP - On FetLife, this means Fuck or Pass, a game that can be found in some groups
  • GGG - Good, Giving, and Game. Good in bed, Giving equal time and equal pleasure, and Game for anything— within reason. The term was coined in 2004, by Dan Savage, an LGBTQ+ activist.
  • IRL - In Real Life
  • ISO - In Search Of
  • K&P - On FetLife, this means Kinky & Popular and represents one of the ways to explore the site.
  • NSFW - Not Safe for Work - not suitable for viewing in a professional environment
  • PWA - Progressive Web App - the way to access FetLife from your phone if you don't want to use a browser
  • SIG - Special Interest Group - A group of people who share a specific interest and come together based on that interest.
  • STI / STD - [Sexually Transmitted Infection / Disease]

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