Relationship, Boundaries, Desires, Sex, Meaning, Aftercare (RBDSMA)

RBDSMA is an acronym which stands for Relationship, Boundaries, Desires, Sex, Meaning, and Aftercare. This describes a framework for discussions about relationships, highlighting topics that are important to cover with partners, even casual ones.

• Relationship: What type of relationship are you both/all looking for? One-time scene? Casual? Open? Monogamous?
• Boundaries: What hard and soft limits do you each have for the activities you want to or do not want to participate in?
• Desires: What are the desires you hope to have fulfilled in this relationship?
• Sex: What sexual activities are you wanting to incorporate into this relationship, if any? If those activities could lead to pregnancy, what contraceptive methods do you plan to use? When were you last tested for STIs?
• Meaning: What is the significance of this relationship to you?
• Aftercare: How do you want to be supported after a scene in this relationship?

Related Terms

• Risk-Aware Consensual Kink (RACK)
• Safe, Sane, Consensual (SSC)
• Personal Responsibility, Informed, Consensual Kink (PRICK)
• Consent, Aftercare, Boundaries, Intentions, Negotiation, and Safety (CABINS)