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FetLife Rules & Policies

Safety, Privacy, Authenticity, and more

Overview

Adults Only

FetLife is for adults only. No one under 18 years old is permitted to join or appear in any content. Sexualized references to minors are strictly forbidden, and any child sexual abuse material (CSAM) is reported to the authorities.

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Community Safety

The community’s safety is extremely important to us. This is why registered sex offenders convicted of a violent or non-consensual sexual offense are not permitted on FetLife. We also review accounts of members with repeated violent convictions for potential removal and do not allow any promotion or threat of violence.

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Member Wellbeing

We care about the wellbeing of the community. When a member expresses thoughts of suicide or self-harm, we reach out to offer resources and support. We also prohibit any content that promotes or encourages eating disorders.

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Privacy

The kink community has always valued privacy, and many members are not open and public about this side of their lives. FetLife believes in protecting that choice and prohibits doxing, outing, revenge porn, or sharing anyone’s personally identifiable information.

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Harmful Conduct

We want everyone to experience a welcoming, safe, and judgement-free space. Which is why FetLife prohibits hate speech, hateful slurs, or hate symbols. We also do not allow shaming or attacking of a member based on their race, gender identity, orientation, body, or kinks.

On top of that, weaponizing AMA questions, intentionally disruptive behavior that harms the community, and unprovoked aggressive personal attacks are not allowed.

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Integrity & Authenticity

FetLife encourages members to be themselves and to represent who they are, inside and out, with honesty and authenticity. We do not allow misleading profiles, impersonation, catfishing, or pretending to be FetLife staff.

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Consent

Consent is a core part of kink, and that includes how we interact and share on FetLife. Members may only post content they created or have permission to share. We also believe that members can withdraw consent at any time, even if they originally agreed to have their photos or videos shared by someone else.

Members can also withdraw consent by blocking the other member. Hence, we do not allow blocks to be circumvented.

This also applies to posting FetLife content off-site and naming and shaming on-site. Also, FetLife does not allow fantasy pushing, so make sure to obtain consent before involving another member in a fantasy.

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Drugs and Other Controlled Items

Due to legalities, we do not allow the exchange of illegal drugs, controlled substances, or controlled items. FetLife also does not allow public photos or videos depicting illegal drug use.

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Sex Work

We support sex workers as people and as valued members of our community. But, due to legal restrictions, FetLife cannot be used for the exchange of sex acts. However, sharing experiences, offering support, and having open conversations about sex work are absolutely welcome.

FetLife is also no place for human trafficking, pimping, or pandering, and any accounts found engaging in such activity will be permanently removed.

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Promotional Activity

We want people to bring all of themselves to FetLife, and sometimes that includes parts of their professional life. FetLife allows members to link their businesses as long as they genuinely participate in the community and are not solely focused on promotion.

We don’t allow spam, excessive promotion, clickbait, or profiles that only focus on taking members off-site. New accounts under three months old may not engage in promotional activity.

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Edge Play & Fantasy Restrictions

FetLife was built for kinky people. We love seeing members explore, express, and celebrate what turns them on. However, due to regulations out of our control, some types of play and fantasy can’t be publicly shared on FetLife.

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Animals

We are big animal lovers, and protecting animals is important to us. That is why any content involving or promoting animal cruelty is prohibited.

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Groups

Groups bring members together around shared interests, experiences, and kinks. This creates spaces where members can connect, learn, and share. These rules help group owners and moderators create spaces that are active, welcoming, and well-managed.

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Events

Events are an important aspect of the community, and at any given time, there are tens of thousands of upcoming events on FetLife. To make sure the event section is relevant to the community, we do not allow personal ads, business promotions, duplicate listings, or recycled events.

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Reporting and Appeals

Our Caretaking team works 24/7/365 with the goal of resolving 95% of reports within 30 minutes of receiving them.

We aim to get things right the first time, but sometimes mistakes can happen! To appeal a decision, send an email to [email protected] with your side of the story, and one of our Caretaker Coordinators will review your case.

We are committed to transparency and accountability. Every month, we share an updated Transparency Report to provide insight into community health, report activity, and the steps we’re taking to improve.

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