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Content Guidelines

On FetLife, it is very important to us that you feel free to be yourself and let your freak flag fly!

Unfortunately though, due to obscenity laws in the US, Canada, and some European countries, if we openly fantasize about certain topics we can find ourselves in hot water.

To protect the community, we think it's best if people don't publicly eroticize any underage, incest, zoophilia, necrophilia, or scat fetishes they might have.

Here is the 411:

No Underage

Under no circumstances can someone post a picture or video that includes a minor, either partially or fully, suggestive or not.

We also don't allow anything that sexualizes a minor.

No Actual Incest

You can not post any pics or vids that display real incest between lineal ancestors or lineal desendants.

No Bestiality

Due to concerns of animal abuse we don't allow the sharing of pics, vids, erotica, or links to sex or sex acts with animals (this is known as bestiality). We also don't allow people to look for others to participate in bestiality.

No Animal Cruelty

At FetLife HQ, we are big animal lovers and do not allow any visual or written material to do with the crushing of any type of animal, either dead or alive, in a sexual or kinky context. Animals include, but are not limited to mammals, insects, and fish.

The crushing of inanimate objects like a freshly baked apple pie is perfectly acceptable, as long as you first cut us a piece! Any chance of some vanilla ice cream to go with it?!

Limited Blood Play

We can't allow the public sharing of visible real or realistic blood in an eroticized context.

Limited Scat Play

Unfortunately, we can't allow people to publicly share any pictures or videos where scat play is involved whether it's:

  • visible poop or diarrhea real or fake (simulated) smeared or otherwise
  • coming out of the body or already out

If this is your kink we want to make it clear that this is not a judgement on your kink or because it might make some people uncomfortable. This is due to regulations outside of our control.

Important: Scat play does not include diaper play, anal play, or enemas.

Hateful Slurs

Using a hateful slur on FetLife to attack another person or group of people, in public or private, is a big no-no.

Hateful slurs include, but are not limited to racial, ethnic, homophobic, and transphobic slurs.

FetLife uses tools like Hatebase to determine if a term is considered hateful.

Within the context of play between consenting adults, hateful slurs are only permitted in closed groups and between friends only.

Exceptions to this rule include, but are not limited to:

  • Using a slur when refering to oneself as a form of self-empowerment

Group Specific

Groups that permit the use of hateful slurs to dehumanize or degrade another member within the context of play and between consenting adults must:

  • Run the group as a closed group
  • Not use hateful slurs in either the group's title or description
  • Include a disclaimer at the bottom of the group's description

Here's an example of the type of disclaimer that needs to exist as part of the group's description:

By requesting to join this group, you consent to being exposed to hateful slurs used within the context of play and between consenting adults.

If the topic of the group lends itself to the use of hateful slurs within the context of consensual play, but the group does not permit them to be used, we recommend group moderators make it clear within the group's rules.


The use of any hateful slurs to dehumanize or degrade a member or members of this group will not be tolerated.

Additional Notes

Due to the historical differences between hateful slurs, the emotional weight of each, and the current use of them by different groups of people, there are some subtle differences to how we treat some slurs. These differences include, but are not limited to:

  • Irrespective of context, we don't allow the use of the n-word ('er' variant) in a group's title, description, or rules.

The misspelling of a hateful slur does not make it less of one.

Revenge Porn

We define revenge porn as any picture or video that is:

  • sexually explicit in nature
  • knowingly posted without the pictured person's consent
  • posted to humiliate, intimidate, or blackmail the pictured person
  • posted with sufficient information to identify the pictured person

If we determine that someone has posted revenge porn to FetLife we do the following:

  • Execute a 90 day preservation request on the full profile that posted the revenge porn. This way all evidence is maintained for 90 days just in case the victim of the revenge porn wants to press charges.

  • Delete the reported revenge porn

  • If the member joined FetLife with the sole purpose of distributing revenge porn, we lock the member out and put their profile in the delete queue.

  • If the member is an active member of the FetLife community, we give them one warning and only allow them back into their account if they agree to never again distribute revenge porn. If they ever post revenge porn again, they will be locked out of their profile and their profile will be added to the delete queue.

Keyword Spam

People sometimes add a list of related keywords to a group description, writing, picture etc. to make sure that the content in question appears in the appropriate search results.

In some cases, people sometimes get a bit overzealous and add hundreds of keywords, oftentimes unrelated keywords, to increase the visibility of their group, writing, picture, etc.

As a result, members often find themselves scratching their head wondering why certain unrelated pieces of content are appearing in search results. Which, makes it harder for people to find what they are looking for.

Hence, if someone has added many unrelated keywords just to boost visibility, we remove all keywords.


Limits on Group Ownership

To increase diversity, prevent group collection, and limit the power of any one individual, we restrict the amount of groups that any one person can own to twenty groups.

Even if someone has more than one profile, they can only own up to twenty groups amongst all of their profiles.

This guideline is not retroactive. If you notice a member owning more than twenty groups, it's most likely because they owned them before this rule went into effect.

This guideline applies to group ownership and NOT group leaders and/or moderators.

Group Collectors

Profiles created for the sole purpose of collecting groups are removed from FetLife to give the opportunity for others to becomes more active in their communities.

Potential group collector profiles are reviewed on a case by case basis.


An event listed in our events section needs to:

  • Occur at a specific date and time
  • Happen at a particular location (in-person, virtual, or both)
  • Be open to more than just a couple of people at a time

If an event does not have all of the above, it's most likely not an event and the event section is probably not the best place to post it.

Only One Event Listing per Event & No Recycling of Event Listings

We only allow one event listing per unique event. Recurring events (ex. monthly munches, yearly conferences, etc.) need to have a separate listing per event.

If more than one listing is created for a specific event, we remove all but one listing.

If an event listing is recycled by moving forward the date/time of the event listing, the event will be removed without notice.

If an event organizer, organization, etc. continue to create multiple listings for the same event, or recycle previous event listings, they risk:

  • Having all of their event listings removed; and
  • Losing the ability to promote any future events on FetLife

Sex Offender

A convicted sex offender is not permitted to have an account on FetLife.

If you come across a profile of a convicted sex offender, please report the profile to In the email, please include the following:

  • Link to the profile
  • Link to any of the following:
    • Listing in a national or state/provincial sex offender registry
    • Online news article
    • Court document

Once we verify the report, we lock the member out of the account and put the account in the deletion queue.

Criminal Arrests

When it's found that someone is charged with a sexual offense, we deactivate their profile and lock them out of their account.

Also, in general, we think that intellectual discussions, jokes between friends, and private discussions should all be fair game.

Our guidelines aren't black and white nor do we think it's healthy for them to be. For every guideline there are tens of thousands of edge cases that we will have to review on a case-by-case basis and act on them by taking into consideration multiple factors including context, how the average person might interpret something, etc.

If at any point you're ever concerned something you're posting might be misconstrued the wrong way then please make the extra effort to assure things are as clear as possible.

If you have any questions about our guidelines don't hesitate to email

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