Femme

In discussions of sexuality and gender expression, the terms "femme" and "fem" (or "feminine") are often used to describe individuals who present themselves in a traditionally feminine manner. While these terms are sometimes used interchangeably, they can carry distinct connotations depending on the context.

"Femme" (French for "woman") is a term rooted in LGBTQ+ communities, historically used to describe a feminine-presenting lesbian. Lesbian feminism challenged the binary Butch/Femme split of lesbians, creating a wider variety of identities free from specific gender presentations.

Over time, its usage has expanded to include feminine-presenting individuals across various queer identities, including bisexual, pansexual, and non-binary people. Embracing a femme identity often involves a conscious reclamation and celebration of femininity within a queer context, challenging traditional gender norms and stereotypes.

"Fem" is a shorthand for "feminine" and is commonly used as a general descriptor for individuals who exhibit traits or expressions traditionally associated with femininity. This term is not exclusive to the LGBTQ+ community and can refer to anyone, regardless of their sexual orientation or gender identity, who presents in a feminine manner. In some contexts, "fem" may specifically refer to feminine-presenting individuals who do not identify as lesbian, such as those who are bisexual, pansexual, or queer.

When displayed on a FetLife profile Femme is abbreviated to FEM.