Outdoor Sex
Outdoor sex refers to having sex outside instead of in a bedroom or private indoor space. It could be in nature - like in the woods, at the beach, or in a park - or in more public spots, like rooftops, cars, alleys, or even public restrooms.
Outdoor sex often connects with kinks like exhibitionism (enjoying being seen), voyeurism (enjoying watching others), or public play. It can also tie into fantasies like a romantic “under the stars” hookup or a quickie in the car.
Outdoor Sex Statistics
- A 215 poll found that 36% of Americans said they'd had sex in public at some point.
- A poll of Millennials found that 25% of people 30-34 years old and 20% of people 18-24 years old said they'd had sex outside.
- Research by sex researcher Dr. Justin Lehmiller found that 81% of men and 84% of women said they were aroused by a public sex fantasy.
- There are more than 220 FetLife groups devoted to outdoor sex.
Why People Are Into It
People love outdoor sex for lots of reasons. Here are just a few.
It's a Thrill
For those who are into public play or exhibitionism, outdoor sex can provide a naughty thrill, especially if there's a risk of being seen. Plus, risk and pleasure activate similar parts of the brain, which makes the experience feel more intense.
Novelty and Sensation
Being in a new environment stimulates the senses differently and can deepen intimacy. Outdoor sex tends to be a more sensory experience as well. It might include a breeze on your skin, outdoor sounds, and the more intense sensations that come with having sex on the ground or against a tree!
A Badge of Honor
For some people, outdoor sex is on their bucket list. They see it as a badge of honor and a way to add variety to their sex life.
Natural Props
For some kinky people, outdoor play presents its own set of natural props, like using trees as bondage poles. (Note that if you tie anyone up outside, you should really do it on your own property!)
Ways to Play: How to Give Outdoor Sex a Try
When it comes to outdoor sex, location is crucial. While you might relish the thrill of being caught, public sex is illegal in many places. Plus, you should really only do the deed in front of others with their consent. Safer spots include a backyard, balcony, rooftop, or parked car. Many people also like empty camp sites, deserted beaches, or quiet trails.
You'll also want to think about practicality. The No.1 complaint about outdoor sex tends to be things that come with the outdoors, like sand, dirt, bugs, the weather, and uncomfortable surfaces. No matter how hot you are for each other, it can be really hard to get off when you're freezing cold or being attacked by ants.
Finally, have an exit strategy and other options. If someone stumbles across you or the weather turns, it's probably time to move on.
Safety and Consent
Stay safe while playing outside. Here are some tips to help.
- Check your local laws around public sex before playing so you and your partner can assess the risk before you decide to play.
- Pick secluded locations to help reduce the risk that you'll be seen.
- Bring supplies like condoms, lube, bug spray, water, and a blanket or towel.
- Dress smart, in easy access clothing so you don't have to strip.
- Clean up by disposing of condoms or wipes before you leave.
Outdoor Sex Q&A
Is outdoor sex illegal?
In many places, outdoor sex is illegal if there's a reasonable chance that other people could see it. Outdoor sex is only legal if it occurs in a private location where it is not visible to the public.
In all 50 states, sexual activity that occurs in public or is visible to the public is generally prohibited under laws relating to public indecency, indecent exposure, public lewdness, or similar offenses. Penalties range from fines and misdemeanors to felony charges or even sex offender registration.
Where to have outdoor sex?
We can't tell YOU where to have sex outside, but we can tell you where other people tend to do it. A 2018 survey by Dr. Ed asked 500 Americans and 500 Europeans where they'd like to have sex outside. They said:
- Public field, forest, or garden: 26%
- Car: 16%
- Beach or ocean: 13%
- Public bathroom: 6%
- Movie theater: 3%
- School, university or library: 2%
- Dressing rom: 2%
- Swimming pool: 2%
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