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Throat Fucking
Definition
Throat fucking is a variant of oral sex where a penis or other phallic object is inserted deeply into a partner's mouth so that the insertion reaches into the giver's throat or (depending on the length) into the esophagus.
The person receiving oral stimulation from the giver takes an active "penetrating" role and is control of the act where as the giver is more passive. Often the person receiving the oral stimulation will thrust into the throat to simulate fucking.
Similar to Deepthroat and face fucking.
General
Even though there exist many different ways to perform the act of throat fucking, it is generally conceived as one of the more extreme oral practices. The combination of deepthroat and face fucking is challenging and takes a lot of practice to endure smoothly. Even when the giver is experienced, the unpredictable nature of the penetration makes it very hard to control the gag reflex.
Penetration speed and force can vary heavily, for example depending on the type of session, the overall mood, and the experience of the giver. It can range from very slow, loving and tender up to merciless piston-like ramming that purposefully causes the giver to struggle.
Aspects Throat fucking can be involved in many aspects of play - depending on what people have consented to enjoy together.
Gagging: It can be a kink of its own to play with another persons gag reflex, for both participants. This can be lived fully during a throat fucking session, since gagging is usually unavoidable for most givers in that situation. Watching the giver struggle, retch and heave does not only provide visual and auditory stimulation to the receiver, the clenching throat muscles add to the physical stimulation of the whole penis shaft. In addition, big amounts of saliva are produced while gagging. Sometimes, when the giver gags very hard, great amounts of slime are ejected in a motion similar to vomiting. The fact of making somebody suffer in that way and the unavoidable saliva mess can be very arousing to the receiver and the giver.
Bondage: Since throat fucking often already implies that the giver is in a passive role, allowing the receiver to freely penetrate their throat, this fact can be made more obvious by using bondage on the giver to make them totally helpless, making it impossible to escape. Bondage during throat fucking is sometimes used during a conditioning phase so that the giver can get into the passive "surrendering" role more easily.
Breath play: When the receiver's penis is long enough to reach the givers esophagus, breathing is not possible, combining throat fucking with breath play. Leaving the penis fully inserted for a longer duration of time forces the giver to hold their breath, which - combined with an inevitable fight against the gag reflex - can be played with. The receiver staying down the giver's throat for as long as possible to purposefully cause a lack of oxygen with the giver and provide a rush of adrenaline can be a game played that combines breath play and throat fucking.
Objectification: Throat fucking can be mixed with objectification - where the giver is reduced to a piece of throat meat, to be used completely freely and without any mercy. The giver's main task during objectification is often to endure any and all predicaments, no matter how hard they may struggle. This can be a "hardcore" form of play and may need a great amount of mental training and strength on the giver's side to surrender in such a complete way.
Vomiting: In the most extreme cases, being subjugated to extended and excessive throat fucking and gagging can lead to vomiting which some people find erotic.
Suggested Positions
A list of sexual positions can never be complete, so this is just a very small selection of "throat fucking friendly" positions:
Kneeling: The giver kneels in front of the receiver. Rather challenging to maintain due to a non-ideal throat/penis angle.
Hanging head: The "classic" throat fucking position. Throat/penis angle is ideal and the giver can relax.
69: Throat fucking in 69 position is rather challenging due to a bad throat/penis angle.
Bow pose: The giver lies on their belly and grabs their ankles. While the penis/throat angle is good, it can be quite challenging to hold this position - something which can be used as a predicament game of its own. The aspect of the giver willingly rendering themselves helpless can be arousing for both parties.
Safety Info
- Due to the nature of the act, a spoken safe word cannot be used. A non-verbal safe word (such as tapping out) often needs to be established in order to provide a safe way for partner's to check in - especially during very rough or extreme forms of throat fucking.
- Since the throat and esophagus are very sensitive and delicate body parts, the receiver needs to be very mindful not to cause injuries. Proper lubrication either with saliva or an external lubricant is needed.
- Additionally, the esophagus is not used to insertions larger than a diameter/thickness of 1" (2.5 cm) so it usually need exercising and time to stretch until the penis or phallic object fits without damaging the tissue.