Throat Fucking
Throat fucking is a form of oral sex in which a penis or other phallic object is thrust deep into a partner’s mouth and throat, usually while the partner’s mouth stays relatively passive. It goes beyond deepthroating, which is typically driven by the person giving oral, because the person receiving takes the active, penetrating role and sets the pace and depth.
Throughout this entry, the “receiver” is the person whose penis or toy is being stimulated and the “giver” is the person whose mouth and throat are being used. These terms describe who does what during the act. They don’t say anything about who holds power in a dynamic: either partner can be a Dominant or a submissive and a Dominant can just as well be the giver.
Throat fucking is closely related to deepthroating and face fucking, but the three aren’t direct synonyms. Deepthroating usually describes the giver taking a partner deep on their own terms, while face fucking is a broader term for thrusting into the mouth, which doesn’t always reach the throat.
Why People Are Into It
For many receivers, the appeal is the intense physical sensation of the tight, clenching throat muscles around the shaft, along with the feeling of control and the visual and auditory spectacle of a partner who is being used. For many givers, the appeal lies in surrender, in being used and in the challenge of enduring something intense. Some people enjoy the mess that comes with it, such as drool and saliva. Others are drawn to the trust it takes to hand over so much control or to the sense of accomplishment that comes from learning to relax into it.
How to Play
Throat fucking is generally considered one of the more extreme oral practices. Even experienced givers find the gag reflex hard to control when penetration is unpredictable, so it helps to start slow and to talk beforehand about depth, speed, duration and what each person wants out of the scene.
Some givers work on relaxing their throat gradually over time, for example by practicing with a dildo on their own or with a partner at a pace they control. Speed and force can vary widely depending on the mood and the people involved. It can be slow and tender or it can be rough, relentless and deliberately challenging for the giver. A receiver who is new to this should begin with shallow, gentle thrusts, withdraw often so the giver can breathe and pay close attention to the giver’s signals.
Safety and Consent
Throat fucking should only happen with clear, enthusiastic consent from everyone involved. Because the giver’s mouth is occupied, a spoken safeword usually isn’t an option, so agree on a non-verbal signal ahead of time, such as tapping out, snapping fingers or dropping a small object held in one hand. If the giver will be bound, make sure at least one hand or foot stays free to signal or choose a signal that works with the restraint. The receiver should withdraw immediately when they see or feel the signal.
The throat is delicate and a few other precautions apply:
Injury
Rough or deep thrusting can bruise or tear the soft tissues of the mouth and throat. Use plenty of lubrication, either saliva or a water-based lubricant, and avoid thrusting forcefully into someone who isn’t prepared. A sore throat the next day is common, but sharp pain, bleeding, trouble swallowing or trouble breathing should be checked by a doctor.
Breathing
Check in frequently and withdraw often to allow breaths. Don’t leave a penis or object in a giver’s throat for long stretches and don’t continue if the giver is panicking or struggling to breathe in a way they didn’t ask for.
Vomiting
There is a risk of aspiration (inhaling vomit), especially if the giver is lying on their back or restrained. Avoid throat fucking right after a meal or while drunk or high and be ready to stop and turn the giver to the side.
Size
The throat usually needs time and practice to adapt to larger sizes, so go gradually and don’t push an object or penis in if there is resistance.
STIs
Oral sex can transmit STIs, including gonorrhea, chlamydia, herpes, HPV, syphilis and these can infect the throat. Condoms, flavored if desired, lower the risk.
Aftercare
Throat fucking can be physically and emotionally intense for the giver, so give them water, rest and reassurance afterward. Check in later too, since feelings can come up hours or days afterward.
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