Promised

Promised describes a relationship status in a kink or BDSM relationship in which one person has made a commitment or pledge to another person, often as part of a power exchange, Dominance and submission (D/s), or ownership dynamic.

A person who is promised may have agreed to become someone's submissive, slave, or partner, either immediately or at a later date. The commitment may involve exclusivity, loyalty, obedience, service, or an intention to develop a deeper relationship.

Being promised can also represent a transitional stage before a more formal commitment, such as being collared or entering an ownership dynamic. For some, it is a symbolic expression of devotion, while for others, it comes with specific responsibilities, expectations, or negotiated rules.

The meaning of being promised varies between relationships and does not necessarily imply exclusivity, submission, or permanent ownership. The nature of the commitment depends on what the people involved have agreed to.

Related Terms

• Engaged
• Under Consideration