Meeting for the First Time

Meeting a person (or couple) from a kink website can be risky. To reduce that risk, most people follow some or all of the following steps to reduce that risk:

1. If the person you are meeting with is active in the local kink community, it is common practice to do some vetting with people that know them. This is not foolproof, as bad actors do not act badly with all people they encounter, but it can give you some information.
   • If the person is not active in the local kink community, ask why. They may have legitimate reasons, or they may have been banned from some events. Someone being banned is not necessarily a reason to not meet, but it is a reason to dig deeper into why that happened.
2. Meet for the first time in a public location, like a coffee shop, or at an event such as a munch.
3. Agree ahead of time that the initial meetup will only be for conversation, not any type of kink play.
4. Set up a safe call.