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Kinktionary

More like guidelines and a lot less like definitions.

Roles

Dominant
A person who consensually takes power, authority or control in a relationship, scene or activity.
Domme
A female-identifying person who consensually takes power, authority, or control in a relationship, scene or activity.
Switch
A person who participates in relationships, scenes and activities as a Top/Dominant or bottom/submissive depending on their mood, partner or the situation. Some switches enjoy changing their power dynamic during the scene.
submissive
A person who agrees to submit or give up control in a relationship, scene or activity.
Master
A person who consensually takes ownership over someone who they are in a relationship with.
Mistress
A person who consensually takes ownership over someone who they are in a relationship with.
slave
A person who agrees to give total control to someone who they are in a relationship with.
kajira
A female owned-property slave, as per the world of Gor in John Norman’s fantasy novels.
kajirus
A male owned-property slave, as per the world of Gor in John Norman’s fantasy novels.
Top
A person who is consensually in control of the action during kinky activities.
Bottom
A person who agrees to give up control or receives the stimulation during kinky activities that may or may not include submission.
Disciplinarian
A person who believes in or practices firm discipline.
Sadist
A person who enjoys inflicting humiliation or pain consensually on someone, whether it’s emotionally, mentally or physically.
Masochist
A person who enjoys receiving pain or humiliation consensually, whether it’s emotionally, mentally or physically.
Sadomasochist
A person who engages in sadism and/or masochism.
Kinkster
A person who doesn’t want to define their role while engaging in power exchange, role play, sadomasochism, cross-dressing and/or fetishes.
Fetishist
A person who is aroused by objects or nonsexual parts of the body.
Swinger
A person who has consensual sex with other people within and outside of their committed relationships.
Hedonist
A person with a strong focus on the pursuit of pleasure.
Exhibitionist
A person who enjoys displaying themselves in a public or semi-public manner in order to attract attention.
Voyeur
A person who enjoys watching others, usually in a sexual context, without engaging with them.
Sensualist
A person with a strong focus on the pursuit of sensual pleasures and interests.
Princess
A person who requires a very particular treatment of praise, care, and attention.
Cougar
An older woman who is primarily interested in men significantly younger than her.
Slut
A person who embraces the freedom to engage in sexual activity in accordance with their desires, with one or multiple partners, regardless of conventional values.
Doll
A person who enjoys objectification and wants to be transformed through one's own and/or outside forces into a living doll.
Toy
One who is treated and played with like a toy instead of a person.
sissy
A male-identified person who engages in feminization and sometimes humiliation in order to reach a different emotional or mental state.
Rigger
A person who practices the art of bondage, usually with rope.
Rope Top
A person who performs rope bondage.
Rope Bottom
A person who receives rope bondage.
Rope Bunny
A popular alternative for Rope Bottom, often a model for performance, photography or demos.
Spanko
A person with a strong interest in spanking and/or being spanked.
Spanker
A person who enjoys spanking others.
Spankee
A person who enjoys being spanked.
Leatherman
A person who has a fetish for leather and/or espouses the traditions and protocols of a traditional style of BDSM that arose out of the combination of male homosexual BDSM with motorcycle clubs ("biker culture") after World War II.
Leatherwoman
A person who has a fetish for leather and/or espouses the traditions and protocols of a traditional style of BDSM that arose out of the combination of male homosexual BDSM with motorcycle clubs ("biker culture") after World War II.
Leather Daddy
An authority figure within the leather community or tradition.
Leather Mommy
An authority figure within the leather community or tradition.
Leather Top
A person within the leather community or tradition who performs kinky activities on someone.
Leather bottom
A person within the leather community or tradition who receives kinky activities from someone.
Leatherboy
A submissive within the leather community or tradition; usually seeking a paternal/maternal figure.
Leathergirl
A submissive within the leather community or tradition; usually seeking a paternal/maternal figure.
Leatherboi
Someone within the leather community or tradition who may be submissive or in a subordinate role, and often doesn't identify with binary gender labels.
Bootblack
A person who specializes in polishing and/or spit-shining boots as part of play, for love of the craft, and/or as a way to give back to the kink community.
Primal
A person who rejects rules, traditions and protocols and prefers to self-define their role, often associated with foundational and/or animalistic instincts, behaviors, and desires.
Primal Predator
A primal who enjoys hunting and attempting to capture prey.
Primal Prey
A primal who enjoys being hunted by a predator.
Bull
A man who engages in sex with a woman whose partner enjoys the cuckold dynamic.
Hotwife
A married woman who pursues sexual relationships with men other than her husband. Her husband has full knowledge of her activities, consents to them, and gets pleasure from them.
Cuckoldress
A woman who may pursue sexual relationships with other people than her partner. Oftentimes she is sexually dominant to her partner and her outside play is to reinforce her dominance. Her partner has full knowledge of her activities.
cuckold
A man who enjoys the humiliation and/or voyeuristic experience of watching or knowing their partner has sex with someone else.
cuckquean
A woman who enjoys the humiliation and/or voyeuristic experience of watching or knowing their partner has sex with someone else.
Feminizer
A person who likes to transform men into feminine beings by modifying their appearance, behavior and mindset.
Ageplayer
A person who engages in role-play where a different age is taken on by one or more of the participants.
Daddy
A person who is nurturing and/or paternal in a relationship.
Mommy
A person who is nurturing and/or maternal role in a relationship.
Big
A person who is nurturing and/or parental in a relationship dynamic.
Middle
A person who identifies with or exhibits a younger mindset and/or behaviors, but feels more like a teen or pre-teen than a little.
Little
A person who identifies with or enjoys exhibiting a child-like mindset and/or behaviors. Their relationships may or may not include a power exchange component.
Brat
A person who likes to exhibit one or more of the following behaviors: teasing, playful, sneaky, mischievous, stubborn, rebellious, disrespectful or disobedient. This behavior may be a component of their power exchange relationship.
babygirl
A person who seeks a parental and/or nurturing figure in a relationship, with some identifying as or role playing as a young girl. Also used as an endearment for a female-identified submissive.
babyboy
A person who seeks a parental and/or nurturing figure in a relationship, with some identifying as or role playing as a young boy. Also used as an endearment for a male-identified submissive.
Handler
A person with a dominant-role in a pet-play dynamic.
Furry
A person who identifies with a particular anthropomorphic animal or creature, often wearing costumes or tokens representing the animal.
pet
A person who may or may not identify with animal play who is treated like they are beloved and owned.
kitten
A person who enjoys roleplay as a kitten or cat.
pup
A person who enjoys roleplay as a puppy or dog.
pony
A person who enjoys roleplay as a pony or horse.
Drag King
A person, typically female-identified, who dresses in clothing of the opposite sex and is often exaggerated for the purpose of entertainment or fashion.
Drag Queen
A person, typically male-identified, who dresses in clothing of the opposite sex and is often exaggerated for the purpose of entertainment or fashion.
Evolving
A person who is undergoing gradual change.
Exploring
A person who is on an open journey through the world of kink.
Vanilla
A person with without any identified kinks or fetishes.

Genders

Male
A person who has the identity and characteristics of a man.
Female
A person who has the identity and characteristics of a woman.
Crossdresser/Transvestite
A person who likes to dress and act in a style or manner traditionally associated with the opposite gender.
Transgender
A person whose sense of personal identity and gender does not correspond with their biological sex assigned at birth.
Transsexual
A person who does not identify with the sex they were born with and is transitioning to the gender with which they identity, usually (but not always) with medical assistance.
Trans Man
A person who is transgender or transsexual and identifies as a man.
Trans Woman
A person who is transgender or transsexual and identifies as a woman.
Intersex
A person who is born with a reproductive or sexual anatomy that doesn't seem to fit the typical definitions of female or male.
Butch
A person who is typically female-identified whose social and relationship roles are perceived by many as being masculine, often having a lesbian, gay, or queer orientation.
Femme
A person who has an appearance or other characteristics traditionally seen as feminine, often having a lesbian, gay, or queer orientation.
Non-Binary
A person whose gender identity falls outside the male-female binary.
Gender Fluid
A person who fluctuates between more than one gender, or between having a gender and not having one.
Genderqueer
A person whose gender identity falls outside the male-female binary.
Androgynous
A person who identifies with both feminine and masculine characteristics.
Agender
A person who does not identify as having a gender.
Bi-gender
A person who identifies with two or more genders, either at the same or different times.
Two-Spirit
A person who has both a masculine and a feminine spirit. Used by Indigenous First Nations and Native American peoples to describe their sexual, gender and/or spiritual identity.

Orientations

Straight
A person who is attracted to the opposite gender in a sexual and/or romantic way.
Heteroflexible
A person who identifies as primarily straight but can occasionally find the same gender appealing in a sexual and/or romantic way.
Bisexual
A person who is attracted romantically and/or sexually to another gender as well as their own.
Bi-curious
A person who is curious about being sexual with someone of the same sex, but does not consider themselves to be bisexual.
Homoflexible
A person who identifies as primarily homosexual but can occasionally find the opposite gender appealing in a sexual and/or romantic way.
Gay
A male who is primarily attracted to other males in a sexual and/or romantic way.
Lesbian
A female who is primarily attracted to other females in a sexual and/or romantic way.
Queer
A person who doesn't identify with traditional categories around gender identity and sexual orientation.
Pansexual
A person who is attracted to and may form sexual and romantic relationships with males, females, and people who identify outside the gender binary.
Demisexual
Asexual
A person who has low or absent sexual interest or desire for people of any gender.
Greysexual
Sapiosexual
Fluctuating/Evolving
A person whose sexual responsiveness is changing/evolving.

Surgeon General's Warning

These are more like guidelines and a lot less like definitions. Each person is unique and only through getting to know someone will you understand what it means for that person to associate with a specific role, orientation, etc.

Contributing Guidelines

The list of terms and definitions (guidelines) are maintained on GitHub. You can always suggest improvements by creating an issue or pull request.

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